Wanting versus Getting

I don’t like to think of myself as materialistic, but there are things I want. As a plus size fashion blogger, I want clothes (or accessories or makeup…) I also want my house to look nice, my yard to be mowed, to have friends, to have a strong marriage.

You may be thinking, “duh.”

For all of these “wants” I have to do something in order to get them. If I want clothes, I have to work to make the money to buy them. If I want my house to look nice, I must work to keep it tidy and decorated. If I want my yard mowed, I have to work at making my husband go outside (totally kidding… sortof). If I want to have friends, I have to work at keeping them and staying in touch. If I want to have a strong marriage, I have to work at being a good communicator.

For everything I want, I have to work. It’s not like being a child and saying “I want a Cabbage Patch doll” and just getting it without working for it. Sidenote: I think my mom fought for my Cabbage Patch doll and won. Score.

I’ve said this before and I’ll continue to say it: if I want to live a healthy lifestyle, I have to work for it.

image via pinterest

There have been plenty of times in my past where I fantasized about being thin or being an athlete. I think I WANT it so badly, but when I don’t GET it, it’s awful. In every one of those instances, I haven’t worked for it. Or, if I worked for it, it was only for a short period of time.

For you to get what you want, you have to work: you must be committed and consistent.

Are you too caught up in wanting something that you are ignoring the fact that you have to work for it? I know I’m not the only one!

  • Shawnna

    Best pinterest ever! I’m totally printing this one out and sticking it on my desk at work…and my mirror at home…maybe on the dashboard of my SUV, lol…thanks for sharing! LOVE your blog and always look forward to your posts!

  • Lisachristinecontino

    I can totally relate to this post.  I *want* to finish my degree.  I have wanted it so much that at 35 years old, I decided that by the time I was 40, I was going to have my Bachelor’s Degree.  I went to the local community college and in two years time, attending class four nights a week, I achieved my Associate’s Degree (two of them actually).  I turned 40 in February, thus, still 40….and I’m proud to say that I will be completing my Bachelor’s Degree in December, two months shy of my 41st birthday…and have a 3.944 GPA to boot!  This is the first real goal in my life that I have made and will be achieving and let me tell you…it feels awesome.  Just like with working out, there have been many times when I just didn’t want to sit in class for three hours when I could be watching Mike and Molly or Criminal Minds or spending time with friends and family, but when I accept that diploma in my hands, the happiness that I will feel for a goal met will far surpass any temporary feeling of missing one class (or one workout).  Keep your goal at the forefront of your thoughts and you will do just fine. 

  • Claire A Cooper11

    you amaze me yet again … just seems like you always know what to say when I’m thinking it but can’t express it .. thanks for your words and thoughts Emily 😉 I appreciate it more than you know!

  • Shirley Prokop

    Wonderful post, very insiteful.  Thanks for sharing and making us think about being accountable.

  • http://plumpetals-workinitout.blogspot.com/ PlumPetals

    Well said!! I absolutely agree. It’s one of those things that probably seems obvious, but at the same time it isn’t always easy to do … You definitely have to be committed and consistent — and patient! That’s the one part that always trips me up — I have to remember to keep working at my goals and be patient – success doesn’t happen overnight! Great post :)

  • http://treslala.wordpress.com Lara @TresLaLa

    My friends & I were just talking about Cabbage Patch Kids and how our moms were able to get our first ones!  Such a great post, and so true.  Whenever I’ve been down on myself for not working out enough or not eating right, I remember something my husband told me when I was whining about it one day, “So change what you’re doing”.  It’s so simple.  Just wish I would remember this at all times…

  • Mizfit

    YESYESYESYES  for me (especially in fitness but in life) it has been 100% about the consistency. any one day may not ROCK but if Im moving toward my goal still thats ok.

  • Anonymous

    My mom and grandma were also duking it out for Cabbage Patch Kids so I could get 2 of them.   I appreciate it more now than I did then I’m sure. 
    I used to be wrapped up in not wanting to work for what I wanted and complaining about it but given that got me close to 500 pounds, you can imagine it was time to put up or shut up.  So glad I finally did and now I’m honing other talents to hopefully truly make decent money at what I love.  There’s no fairy godmother no matter how hard we wish upon a star.  Love the workout chart!  :-) 

  • Return of the Runner

    I love this. It’s all common sense, but so important to see it written out!

  • http://samanthasday.wordpress.com/ erinsgobragh

    Yup so true. Not feeling to good today, got a soar throat and am drained but still going to do a 20 minute cardio workout and a hour yoga workout. I always make myself do something even though I don’t feel good.

  • http://balancingmychemicals.wordpress.com Andie

    @TresLaLa:disqus – my husband & his friends have a rule – you can only complain about something 3 times. If you haven’t taken action to fix it yourself by the 3rd time, no more complaining. I’ve found myself able to cut short complaint sessions in meetings when people say “someone should” by quickly interjecting with “you’re right, YOU’RE in charge, thanks for taking care of that.”

    Much harder to turn it on yourself, but powerful when you do!

  • Katdoesdiets

    LOVE that image. 
    Yes, yes, damn-it we have to work for it 😉

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Katie-Ann-Day/1700706662 Katie Ann Day

    I admit it – YES, I have :) I have moments where I think “I work so hard for everything I want – can’t I just get a freebie for once???” Of course, I know the answer to that (particularly concerning losing weight), and i realize there’s just no two ways about it. Besides, it’s going to be that much more gratifying when the weight is gone to say “Yeah, I worked hard and look what I accomplished!”

  • LHA

    Absolutely!  I am an incurable daydreamer.  It is so much easier to sit around dreaming of achieving a goal than it is to actually get out and work for it.  Your post is an excellent reminder to put in the work and the reward will follow.  Thanks for a great blog.

  • Danacip226

    I used to think their was really witches like on Bewitched when I was a kid.  Totally screwed me up in life…lol.  I wish it was all that easy.  Now that I am older I don’t wish that I could twitch my nose.  I appreciate the stuff I work for.  That includes the 100 pounds I lost.  Even if I have gained back a little.  It feels good to follow through.  In fact it’s one of the best feelings ever.

    We can do this!

  • Kristy

    I think this is the most fundamental point to life. You get what you put in to something. If you don’t work for it, you can’t expect it to work for you. Well said, Emmie. 

  • http://twitter.com/nycpatty Patty

    Are you writing about me? 😉

    Girl I can’t tell you that I have been WANTING to work out for the last two weeks and NADA! I think that’s what my post will be about tomorrow. I need to find a way to remotivate.

    This post really helps. Love that pic :)

  • http://nikkianne.wordpress.com/ nikkianne

    So true! How do we forget in moments of stress and sadness? I so should have passed on that beer I had an hour ago

  • http://twitter.com/gettinfitbritt Brittany

    YES!!!!! SUCH a big struggle for me! I want to lose weight and get to my happy weight, but most of the time i don’t want to put in the hard work to get there!!! There’s a PROBLEM with that! I wanted to be an LPN, so i worked my ass off and graduate; i wanted to move to austin, i worked hard and get here!!! Why do i have such a difficult time putting that mindset towards weight loss?!?!?

  • Krista

    Absolutely. I want to know what it is like to be thin and wear the stylish clothes and have the energy but I haven’t made the adjustments to get there. I make progress and strides and then slip back into the “easier” routines.

  • Anonymous

    I can totally relate to this post.  I have this desire to be healthier and stronger and I have for YEARS.  But I’ve not worked at it for years.  Even though I’ve said to myself and tried to convinced myself I have; the truth is I’ve not.  Now there were times I did work really hard and then I saw results.  But for some reason I can’t keep the momentum going.  But I still try.  Because the desire or the want is still there.  And I’m working on backing up my wants with action.  Thanks for sharing!

  • Robin Sills

    Your entire website is really wonderful. I just discovered it last night and I wanted to say thank you for doing what you do. Your words have hit me on all different levels, emotionally (finding peace) and logically. You are a wise lady! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and vulnerabilities, so that the rest of us can know that we are not alone. I woke up this morning and worked out for the first time in months. Thank you.